Nowadays, nearly any topic can be approached from a scientific standpoint. This can be quite helpful, as it can shine new light on an old topic, leaving individuals better informed and more prepared to deal with potential problems. Although when we think of science we tend to think of the medicine and the like, it can, and has, also been applied to relationships and marriages. In fact, a psychologist at the University of Washington has found that four behaviors significantly increase a couple’s chances of divorce.
The first behavior is contempt. This occurs when one spouse sees the other as inferior rather than as an equal. This can lead to anger, disgust and a closing off from a partner. Experts suggest that thinking of a situation from the other person’s point of view may help avoid contemptuous feelings.
The second behavior is criticism. Here, an individual attacks the significant other’s character traits. Although one instance of criticism may not lead to the termination of a relationship, ongoing criticism could breed resentment and dark emotions.
The third behavior that may predict divorce is defensiveness. Being defensive in a relationship can escalate disputes, leading to other toxic emotions. Therefore, it is recommended by some to own up to mistakes in order to avoid negativity.
Fourth, experts suggest stonewalling, or blocking off communication with a partner, can be extremely damaging to a relationship. Couples should be sure to try to maintain communication so that they can work out their problems, if possible.
Despite these signs, it is still impossible to say, without a doubt, when a divorce will and will not occur. Those who wish to stay in their marriages should continue to work on improvement. Those who wish to dissolve their marriage, however, may want to learn more about their legal options.
Source: Business Insider, “4 behaviors are the most reliable predictors of divorce,” Erin Brodwin, Feb. 17, 2016